I know how you feel. You tell yourself "It's ok (my child) will get there in their own time. I shouldn't compare them to their siblings or other children. Their unique, special. Deep Breathe What can I do to help, to learn or to be a better parent of a special needs child?" (And then stop yourself from thinking, "It's my fault")
In my few years with Maggie, I've learned it's nearly impossible to get her to do what you want her to do, she will only do what she wants to do! And she is not interested in putting beads on a string or stacking 4 blocks... Hand over Hand annoys her that I'm touching her. Dozens of therapists have lead to progress yet there are still tasks I know she can do that she just doesn't want to! Drawing or coloring is a big one. But puzzles have always been challenging. The piece has to be perfectly in place to fit and the little red nob requires pincher grasp , least favorite, and it doesn't have the most exciting end result seeing as you are basically covering up a picture with the same picture... BUT this most annoying puzzle makes the sound of the animal if she fits it in the right spot! Brilliant! The motivator she needed :-) A friend of my dad's gave this to Maggie and she loves it.
Only downside is that it will randomly makes noses when we walk by it.... Oh Well another amusing aspect my life :-)